Personal Hugging Rules
Nov. 30th, 2007 09:52 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
affrecaToday's random preoccupation with societal rules is hugging. Partially because of a scene in CSI, partially because of a hug, and partially because of an article about Swedes. When are you OK with hugging? I personally love getting hugs/hugging, but am usually to shy to initiate. Because I don't know where other people's rules are, and I don't want to suggest more of a relationship than the other person is offering.
See, I know many people are reluctant about touch, sometimes for good reasons. And a lot of harm can be done with unexpected, violent hugging (glomping in animecon terms). But I like contact. My social skills were mostly imprinted on me in high school, hanging out with a coed touchy group. And then I went to college and my friends were grouped by gender - female roomates and male gaming buds. I mostly touched boyfriends.
Post college I was in an environment with even less touching, as everyone would was afraid of it being misconstrued and I didn't have a boyfriend. So, it's OK to hug me. I might even get confident to hug back.
See, I know many people are reluctant about touch, sometimes for good reasons. And a lot of harm can be done with unexpected, violent hugging (glomping in animecon terms). But I like contact. My social skills were mostly imprinted on me in high school, hanging out with a coed touchy group. And then I went to college and my friends were grouped by gender - female roomates and male gaming buds. I mostly touched boyfriends.
Post college I was in an environment with even less touching, as everyone would was afraid of it being misconstrued and I didn't have a boyfriend. So, it's OK to hug me. I might even get confident to hug back.
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Oh, no!
Date: 2007-12-01 09:10 pm (UTC)Maybe I can use this as an excuse to get a bigger monitor . . . hmmmmmmm . . . ^__^